Human Behavior

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Concept of 09-01-2020


The acceptence of

 - The urge to make full use of opportunities and talents for one's own development and for the well-being of fellow human beings.

 - The challenge to be as well-informed as possible about good and evil and then to follow the judgment of one's own conscience when important decisions have to be taken.

 - Grant respect and equal opportunities to every human being regardless of gender, nationality, language, ethnic origin, sexual orientation, age, social status or beliefs.

 - Support of actions to promote freedom of expression, including discord, while respecting the rights, opinions and dignity of others. This includes the freedom to explore the value of religious theories.

 - Respect for all forms of family, including those which differ greatly from one's own ideas.

 - Promoting social justice and the application of human rights within one's own scope.


- The willingness to participate in dialogues about the purpose of living and working, about tolerance and how to practice helpfulness.

 - Where possible, inform children about good and evil and everything they need to know to be  useful and to prevent addiction, violence and abuse in their own midst.

 - Attempts to protect nature, save energy and reduce pollution.

 - A proactive attitude towards a community of their own



for dialogue at tables for six


    The environment

     Life goal


     Completed life

     Own conscience

     Love and fidelity


     Hope and view

     The disadvantaged

     Congenital retardation



For the timebeing all all meetings at tables for six are imposible because of the corona virus

The circular way

In business, a circle is often formed for a conversation that is less personal but offers the opportunity to involve a large group of people in a problem in a short period of time.
The management launches a problem and a number of possible decisions. Each person present is given the opportunity to express
in a few words a motivated preference.

The picture shown above was taken in Bratislava during a circular deliberation on the autonomy of conscience.



The shy soul cannot show up without the assurance of safe relational space. Therefore the CENTER FOR COURAGE AND RENEWAL  recommends



 1.      1.  BE FULLY PRESENT, EXTENDING AND PRESUMING WELCOME. Set aside the usual distractions of things undone from yesterday and things to do tomorrow. Welcome others into this story space and presume you are welcome as well.

 2.      2.  LISTEN GENEROUSLY. Listen intently to what is said; listen to the feelings beneath the words. As Quaker Douglas Steere writes, “To listen another’s soul into life, into a condition of disclosure and discovery may be almost the greatest gift we can offer to another.”

   *    3.  AUTHOR YOUR STORY. We all have a story. Some might say, “I don’t have a story” or a story worth telling,” but you do and the world is in need of hearing it. You must claim authorship of your own story and learn to tell it to others so they might understand you, be inspired by you and discover what calls you to be who you are, to do what you do or to love what you love.

   *     4.  WE COME AS EQUALS. We don’t have the same gifts, limits or experiences, but no person’s gifts, limits or experiences are more or less important than another’s.

   *     5.   IT IS NEVER “SHARE OR DIE.” You will be invited to share stories in pairs and in a large group. The invitation is exactly that. You will determine the extent to which you want to participate.

         6.   NO FIXING. We are not here to set someone else straight, right a wrong, or provide therapy. We are here to witness God’s presence and movement in the sacred stories we share.

         7.  SUSPEND JUDGMENT. Set aside your judgments. By creating a space between judgments and reactions, we can listen to another person, and to ourselves, more fully.

          8. TURN TO WONDER. If you find yourself becoming judgmental or cynical, try turning to wonder: “I wonder why she shared that story or made those choices?” “I wonder what my reaction teaches me?” “I wonder what he’s feeling right now?”

           9.  BELIEVE IN POSSIBILITIES. Believe that it is possible for us to emerge from our time together refreshed, surprised, and less burdened than when we came. Believe that this time can provide renewal, refreshment, and possibilities; that seeds planted here will bloom in time to come. [1][JP1] [MOU2]